I wish you could open up to me. You're so emotionally tight and detached. I don't seem to feel the connection anymore. We're gradually drifting apart and this terribly hurts me, indeed greatly.
This was me talking to myself after effortlessly speaking to a brick wall.
I've expressed my feelings about your attitude and the unresponsiveness of your emotional stance over and over again, times without number. I've attempted to initiate conversations around our relationship to no avail, rather I've been met with your silent behaviour. You've held back such discussions, such that I've now given up.
Two things came to mind whilst exploring the situation:
a) That's your strategic way of gradual withdrawal from us
b) You're too egocentric as to not talk about your emotions/feelings towards me.
The relationship have endured periods of emotional trauma. I've shed silent tears while lying close to you without your taking notice of the sobs and tears. How could you be so cold. Anyways, me I'm out, this is it. no more.
I don't think I'm wrong in my observations on how you've turned lovemaking into some acrobatic, sometimes great, other times a struggle as though you're doing me favour. That is absolute rubbish and an unacceptable position. No woman should be made to feel unloved and as though she is being done a favour by their partner to have sex with them. Such a behaviour only breeds emotional abuse in relationship which later could potentially lead to physical abuse. Why should a man feel he can pull away from a woman he first expressed love to as his one and only, thereafter change to an unbearable he-goat. Little wonder society records an alarming statistics of marriage breakdowns and divorces.
Ironically, whilst typing this message, a TV programme on AIT TV @aittvuk on @theamazonsofficialng titled Husband Killers, violet wives: Why women are becoming more violent, came on air. The conversation explored triggers of violence in women using the Nigerian society as a case study. The discourse explained that such women have endured in their marriage over a long period of time. They have bottled-up and suffered domestic violence and not spoken up about it because of cultural reasons. Women are blamed for their husband's actions, a woman is labeled 'a bad wife' if the husband mistreats her, it is fault. Women are to remain quiet, silent, not to be heard, but seen. Traditionally, woman are not to air their views in gathering of the elders -- Men. A Society that is male dominated who see themselves as colossus. They have either suffered silently, they have no safety net, the system does not recognise or protect them.
There are three major causes - Society, Culture, Religion. These are the three causative factors women enduring lives with their men. A woman can be made to feel devalued and lose confidence in herself due to her quest to please societal, cultural and religious norms.
I've expressed my feelings about your attitude and the unresponsiveness of your emotional stance over and over again, times without number. I've attempted to initiate conversations around our relationship to no avail, rather I've been met with your silent behaviour. You've held back such discussions, such that I've now given up.
Two things came to mind whilst exploring the situation:
a) That's your strategic way of gradual withdrawal from us
b) You're too egocentric as to not talk about your emotions/feelings towards me.
The relationship have endured periods of emotional trauma. I've shed silent tears while lying close to you without your taking notice of the sobs and tears. How could you be so cold. Anyways, me I'm out, this is it. no more.
I don't think I'm wrong in my observations on how you've turned lovemaking into some acrobatic, sometimes great, other times a struggle as though you're doing me favour. That is absolute rubbish and an unacceptable position. No woman should be made to feel unloved and as though she is being done a favour by their partner to have sex with them. Such a behaviour only breeds emotional abuse in relationship which later could potentially lead to physical abuse. Why should a man feel he can pull away from a woman he first expressed love to as his one and only, thereafter change to an unbearable he-goat. Little wonder society records an alarming statistics of marriage breakdowns and divorces.
Ironically, whilst typing this message, a TV programme on AIT TV @aittvuk on @theamazonsofficialng titled Husband Killers, violet wives: Why women are becoming more violent, came on air. The conversation explored triggers of violence in women using the Nigerian society as a case study. The discourse explained that such women have endured in their marriage over a long period of time. They have bottled-up and suffered domestic violence and not spoken up about it because of cultural reasons. Women are blamed for their husband's actions, a woman is labeled 'a bad wife' if the husband mistreats her, it is fault. Women are to remain quiet, silent, not to be heard, but seen. Traditionally, woman are not to air their views in gathering of the elders -- Men. A Society that is male dominated who see themselves as colossus. They have either suffered silently, they have no safety net, the system does not recognise or protect them.
There are three major causes - Society, Culture, Religion. These are the three causative factors women enduring lives with their men. A woman can be made to feel devalued and lose confidence in herself due to her quest to please societal, cultural and religious norms.
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